know yourself

Sunrise

BUZZ! BUZZ! Time to get up. You roll over and turn off the alarm and lay there for a couple of minutes clearing your mind and trying to get a course for what you have to do today. Ok you have it figured out so you head for the john to drain the fluids from your bursting bladder.

Now you are standing at the sink washing your hands and you look in the mirror. Then these words come to mind’

I’m starting with the man in the mirror

I am asking him to change his ways

And no message could have been any clearer

If you wanna make the world a better place

Take a look at yourself and make a change

Who is that man/woman in the mirror that you are looking at? Is he/she happy? Is he/she where he/she wants to be in life? When is the last time he/she really enjoyed life? Does he/she believe in him/herself? Does he believe in him/herself?

If you don’t believe in yourself then it really doesn’t matter what the answers were to the other questions. If you want to succeed and enjoy a happy and fulfilled life you have to believe in yourself. You the man/woman! You are in charge! Grab the day by the horns and make it YOUR day.

Ok now look in the mirror and tell that person in the mirror, This is your day and no one is going to PP on your parade. Any and all negativity is no longer allowed. If the day is ruined it will be because you were weak and let it happen. Whose life is it? Your life. Do you believe? Yes! In what? ME!!!!! I can’t hear you! MEEEEEE!!!

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” – Marcus Aurelius

So now you believe in yourself. Good on you. That is where it starts. Now to maintain the road of happiness. Most folks now a days try to find happiness through material things.

‘Cause the boy with the cold hard cash

Is always Mister Right, ’cause we are

Living in a material world

And I am a material girl,

You know that we are living in a material world

And I am a material girl – Madonna Material Girl

Be still. Listen real close. Hear that? Ba-beat, ba- beat, ba-beat. That is your heart beating within you. Giving you life. Pumping the essence of life through your veins so that you may enjoy life. This is where you will find true happiness. Within yourself. You don’t need that new boat, new car, new dress, new golf clubs, etc.. No siree. You need a soft, gentle, caring heart. A heart that cares about others.

“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” – Carol Burnett

If you don’t believe in yourself, and feel you need to change the direction of your walk in life, look no further than inside yourself. There you will find the answers to “you”.

Don’t forget to “spread the love”.

Sunset

“To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the stillness underneath the mental noise, the love and joy underneath the pain, is freedom, salvation, enlightenment.” – Eckhart Tolle

How well do we really know ourselves? How much time do we spend on getting to know ourselves?

On the other hand we spend a lot of time trying to get to know others. We become infatuated by someone and begin having feelings for them and we begin the task of getting to know them better. We want to know what makes them tick, their likes and dislikes and anything we can find out to help our cause to win their hearts over. We spend all of this time and energy not realizing that we need to be getting to know ourselves.

I feel the majority of people have forgotten to take the time to know themselves. Not knowing yourself can be very detrimental to any relationship. Knowing yourself adds so much depth to a relationship. If you know what you want out of life and stay true to not accepting anything less you are going to have a better chance of having a healthy relationship.

That is why it is so important to know yourself. Go to your safe place, meditate, search your soul, whatever works for you and know yourself. Nurture your self esteem and most of all learn to believe in yourself. Know what you want and don’t lose site of your dreams. It is your life now take charge of it.

“The most difficult thing in life is to know yourself.” – Thale

If you want a white picket fence in the country and the person of interest in your life wants a loft apartment in the city, NEWSFLASH!, the odds are very slim that it will ever work even if you are willing to compromise because some day there is going to be an argument and someone is going to say “I gave up everything I wanted in life to make you happy!”.

Why should we settle for anything less than happiness? I don’t give a rat’s arse what folks have told you but we all deserve happiness. However there is a “catch 22”. It is your responsibility to find it, not anyone else. The first action needed in this adventure down life’s highway is for you to know yourself and find your destination.

“The better you know yourself, the better your relationship with the rest of the world.” – Toni Collette

There is the old joke that a woman marries a man thinking, I can change him. A man marries a woman thinking, I don’t want her to ever change ’cause I love her the way she is.

Now once again, I am not a counselor, no degree or education as a counselor. I am just someone that has lived life. First I want to clarify that compromise isn’t out of the question but it has to be for the right reason. I know I have heard people say that their counselor told them they needed to come to a compromise. These were married people who had a lot of blood, sweat and tears invested in their marriage. At that point it could be a good thing depending on the individuals, situation and many other variables. That is another blog.

My personal opinion is that individuals need to know themselves before they become serious about a relationship. If you want a Tom Selleck/ Jenifer Aniston then by all means set your goal and don’t waiver. Now this example is somewhat radical but I am just trying to get a point across. Know what you want in life, stay focused and don’t waiver. You owe that to yourself. You deserve happiness and compromise dilutes that.