Your(Self)- Esteem

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Wikipedia tells us that self-esteem reflects a person’s overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth.  It is a judgement of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self.

I believe in today’s society we place to much emphasis on the opinions of other people.  I like this quote by Emerson, “It is easy to live for others, everybody does.  I call on you to live for yourself.”  

There was a time when I worried about what people thought of me.  I would find myself living totally out of my character in hopes that people would like me.  This went on for some time until one day I realized what a fake I was and how unhappy I was, pretending to be someone I wasn’t.  Let’s face it, when you are a red neck, country, hillbilly you can only hide it so long.  I mean you are what you are and you can’t live a lie just to prop up your self-esteem because it won’t last long.

I remember when I was six my dad took me to the barber and had my head practically shaved.  Now this wouldn’t have been so bad for some folks, however I have this curse that hangs over me.  Large, protruding ears.  Now take away the hair and ………OMG all the kids called me “Dumbo” the elephant.  This fiasco did absolutely nothing for my self-esteem.  It was tough but I pulled through and life went on.

“Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?” – Brigham Young

As I have matured, during my stroll through life, I have learned to appreciate who I am and what I have accomplished.  When ever I see someone belittled or bullied it infuriates me to no end.  I immediately go into “salvage” mode and a lot of times I don’t even wait until the offender leaves Dodge.  I can remember being put down in front of a crowd and everyone just staring where if just one person would have walked up to me and said “that is not true” then gave me a big hug, my confidence level would have never crashed.  Now I am not saying that no one is deserving of a arse chewing.  If I screw up then I have earned everything I get.

What I hate to see is someone that is trying to improve and all they hear is, “you are so stupid”, “you need to just give up”, etc..  What happened to constructive criticism?  We as a society need to develop a bigger heart and the art of kindness.  Unless you are some kind of egotistical maniac, there are going to be times that you question your own self-esteem.

“Social media websites are no longer performing an envisaged function of creating a positive communication link among friends, family and professionals.  It is a veritable battleground, where insults fly from the human quiver, damaging lives, destroying self-esteem and a person’s sense of self-worth.” – Anthony Carmona

I think the above quote pretty much sums up how I feel about today’s social media.  People just don’t seem to care about one another’s feelings.

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Emerson, Politics and Myself

 

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I call it “The Rock of David”.

“The teaching of politics is that the Government, which was set for protection and comfort of all good citizens, becomes the principal obstruction and nuisance with which we have to contend… The cheat and bully and malefactor we meet everywhere is the Government.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Emerson writes in his essay on politics that an ideal government, advocated for the growth of the individual and would be able to protect one’s individual rights.  Once an individual became completely independent and self-reliant they would be ready for democracy and the government could be abolished.  The richest asset one could have is the mind and the intelligence needed from each individual would triumph over politics and business interests.  He also valued personal rights over property rights.

He tells us that “The law is only a memorandum.” and his most popular quote was “The less government we have the better.”  Emerson had complete faith in the individual but he does a turn about on his views toward nations.  He goes as far to write, “Every actual state is corrupt.”  Political parties are “made out of necessity” out of the time period and not of any underlying theory.  He was not satisfied with either party at the time and hinted to the natural inequality the system adhered to and its effects.  Even back then he didn’t trust the pulpit and the press.  This is from Essays: Second Series published in 1844.

Now fast forward to 2017 and hold on to your arse.  Less government is certainly out of the question and there is very little trust for the press and the pulpit.  Our government has become enormous.  The thing that fascinates me is that we Americans put our trust in a group of people who steal from us (i.e. Social Security) and unless you have a rather large sum of money to invest in a campaign you aren’t going to get elected.  The majority of most of these elections are won by the person who had the most money to spend.  No, I didn’t say always I said most.  The average John Q Public has no way to be successful in a bid for a US Senate seat or House of Representatives.  The qualifications are easy enough.

Senate: 1) at least 30 years old  2) a U.S. citizen for at least 9 years at the time of election to the Senate  3) a resident of the state one is elected to represent in the Senate.

House of Representatives: 1) be at least 25 years old  2) have been a resident of the United States for the last 7 years  3) be (at the time of the election) an inhabitant of the state they represent.

Wow!  We trust these people to do what  is best for us?  Not even a high school diploma or GED required.  The real kicker, why would someone spend a million dollars to procure a job that pays one hundred seventy four thousand to two hundred thousand dollars a year?

 

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I see the bad moon arising, I see trouble on the way………

 

“Every actual State is corrupt.  Good men must not obey the laws too well.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

I don’t know what the future holds but I personally think trouble is on its way.  We are a country that instead of taking a problem head on we just pass another useless law.  Representatives that make promises and never follow through.  Both parties promise the moon and deliver nothing.   Both sides still refuse to acknowledge why the election of 2016 went the way it did.  Fact is that Americans are fed up with the whole mess and demonstrated that in the voting booth and democrats and republicans still refuse to acknowledge it.

In my heart I truly believe the framers of the constitution tried their best to protect us from the greed of politicians.  Greed however is hard for humans to overcome and very hard to defeat.  The corruption within our government and political system iseventually going to be the death of a once great nation.  It is been there a long time but it seems the new politicians are bolder than those before them or maybe they aren’t as smart as their predecessors, because they aren’t doing a very good job of hiding it.

I hope Americans remain awake and keep sending a message to politicians that we have had enough.  They work for and represent us and it is time we quit keeping them in office when they don’t have our best interests in mind.  Ok I will shut up now.  I know I am beating a dead horse.

Thanks for taking the time to read my blog.  I really don’t like to write about this particular subject however I just needed to get it off my chest.  I am tired of seeing my friends and family arguing over a bunch of thugs, yeah I called them thugs, that don’t give a rat’s patootie about them.  Be sure to spread the love.

Logic vs Emotion

 

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How can you not like these little creatures?

“When dealing with people remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion. – Dale Carnegie

First I want to make it perfectly clear I am not taking sides with the actions I mention below.  All I am trying to do is get people to look at these two conflicts through logic and not emotions.

At the moment this nation is so wrapped up in emotion that it has forgotten to use logic.  It doesn’t seem like anyone can think clearly and it is really starting to show.  Is there any end in sight?  Folks are flying off the handle and doing things without thinking and having to live with the harm caused by their actions.

Football.  Used to be America’s past time.  The operative word is “used” because I think its popularity is waning.  The debate can go on all day over whether or not the taking of a knee during the National Anthem is disrespectful or not.  Debate all you want.  The real problem I have with the NFL is not sticking to their guns.  Kaepernick said he took a knee to bring awareness of racial injustice in the United States.  Tebow took a knee to profess his faith.

The Dallas Cowboys made a request to the NFL to allow them to wear a decal with the words “Arm in Arm” on it during the season.  Their reason was to pay tribute to the five police officers that were killed in an ambush.  NFL said because of their strict rules concerning uniforms their request was denied.  Really?

Then let me see.  Seems some NFL players wanted to wear some cleats with a special design commemorating the 15th anniversary of 9/11.  Williamson, a linebacker for Tennessee Titans was told he would be fined.  Now keep in mind Kaepernick had worn some “pig socks” and the NFL said nothing.  Six players, including Williamson wore their shoes any way and the NFL decided against fining them because of public outrage.  Interesting to say the least.

Last but not least, Kaepernick was at work.  He was representing a team he had been hired to play football for.  Why should he be allowed to protest in this manner and be treated any differently than the rest of us.  That was not the place or time to do it.  He could have used any other venue not related to his job and he would have been a hero.  Again because someone reacted with emotion instead of logic he has hurt a good cause and drove another wedge between individuals in this nation that could have been avoided.

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However they can become pretty aggressive around food.

Hollywood, News Media, and Politics:  All of a sudden women are coming forward making accusations against prominent men within society.  I in no way do I condone any of the actions they have been accused of but at the same time I have to ask why?  Some of these accusations are 40 years old.   Why not come out against them when it happened?  It would certainly add more credibility to their accusations.

Most of these accusations are so old you will never be able to prove right or wrong and what consequences does the accuser face?  None.  Nada! Nothing.  If they are true I would like nothing more than see the perpetrators staked to an ant hill, in the hot sun with their genitals covered in honey.

However what if the women are not telling the truth?  What happens to them?  There are people who have lost their jobs over these accusations and their lives ruined.  Yes some have admitted to wrong doing so justice was served but what about those that deny it ever happened?  We are now ruining peoples’ lives by just saying it happened and no way to really prove it happened or didn’t, because of the time lapse.  Sad thing is if they are telling the truth, I shutter to think of all the women’s lives that were ruined because these women remained silent.

Maybe I am screwed up but in my mind by these women not coming forward when it happened are just as guilty of the wrong doings to the women that followed as the man himself.  Yes I have heard the argument that it is hard for them to come forward when it happened and it would have had a negative impact on their careers, I get that.  Why is it any different coming forward now than it was then?  Oh please don’t tell me it is because society has changed and blah, blah blah.  The time to correct that wrong doing is when it happened, not 10 or 30 years later.  If they are guilty then they need to be punished.

I hope I didn’t offend anyone.  That was not my intentions.  My whole purpose of this blog was to hopefully show readers how this country has become a nation of emotional thinking/reacting and doesn’t even seem to recognize logic anymore.  If I did offend you I am sorry but I just call ’em like I see ’em.  I try to stay away from controversial subjects like this but I thought it was something that needed to be said.

Thanks once again for taking time to read my blog and I hope you enjoyed it.  Remember, spread the love.

Note:  I used the pics of the hummingbirds I had taken because it shows how sweet they can be but we have to remember how aggressive they can be and the chaos they create around the feeders is representative of the climate in our nation at the moment.

 

 

 

 

 

Fate?

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“Tis weak and vicious people who cast the blame on Fate.  The right use of Fate is to bring up our conduct to the loftiness of nature.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Fate: the will or principle or determining cause by which things in general are believed to come to be as they are or events to happen as they do: destiny (Merriam-Webster)

Life is what one makes it.  Do I believe in fate?  Good question.  Personally I don’t believe fate exists to the extent of being the only determining factor of the outcome of ones life.  OMG!  That would mean that I am totally responsible for my life.  That would be disastrous for a society that doesn’t seem to want to take responsibility for anything.  Last I heard they were trying to get the word “responsibility” removed from the English language.

Then what is fate?  Well, could it be limitations or situations in our life that we don’t understand but we have to call it something.  I feel there are reasons that two peoples paths cross but I don’t necessarily think of it as fate.

“If we must accept fate we are not less compelled to affirm liberty, the significance of the individual, the grandeur of duty, the power of character.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

If fate dictates what our life will be then why do we even try to better ourselves.  Why do we dream?  I mean if you believe fate/destiny are in control of your life, then your life has pretty much been mapped out.  If you were destined to be poor then why try to be anything else?  Not everyone can be poor or rich, unless you are a member of the United States congress.  There you go in poor and come out rich.

“It is what a man thinks of himself that really determines his fate.” – Henry David Thoreau

I think of fate like sin.  Christianity teaches that one must repent from sin to enter heaven.  They also teach that God gave everyone “free will”.  In other words it is up to the individual to decide where they want to spend eternity or if they want to play the hand that fate dealt them.

To defeat fate one must do it through power.  Emerson wrote:

“He who sees through  the design, presides over it,  and must will which must be.  We sit and rule, and, though we sleep, our dream will come to pass.  Our thought, though it were only an hour old, affirms an oldest necessity, not to be separated from thought, and not to be separated from will.  They must always have coexisted.  It apprises us of its sovereignty and godhead, which refuse to be separated from it.”

Now I know there are those of you a lot smarter than this here old horseshoer and feel free to tell me if I am way off base.  I think that Emerson is saying that to overcome fate, we need power, a combination of thought and will.  I believe here “will” is truth and the desire to exist or overcome (fate) and when combined with thought one creates the power to write their own chapters in their life.

 

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Through this opening is your Book of Life.  Who is going to be the author?  Fate or you?

I am sure there will be those who will not agree with my interpretation of fate so we will have to just agree to disagree.  I like it when I can write something that is thought provoking.  I think there is a majority of folks out there that need some stimulation of the thought process.  I don’t mean it as an insult.  Technology has pretty much created a life where folks don’t have to think as much anymore.

“I suppose that the great questions of “Fate, Freewill, Foreknowledge Absolute,” which used to be discussed at Concord, are still unsettled.” – Henry David Thoreau

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A Little Bit About Henry David Thoreau

 

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“I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time.  To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating.  I love to be alone.  I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.” – Henry David Thoreau, Walden

I think one reason that I find the work of Thoreau so magical is because of the many things I feel we have in common, I too love to be alone.  Is it indicative of a selfish person?  I would hope not.  I personally don’t consider myself a selfish person.  I would like to think of it as a trait of someone that is independent and a survivor.  I am not what I would call a very materialistic person.  I am just a simple man who isn’t fond of drama and keeps negativity at a great distance.

In 1845 Thoreau built a cabin upon the shores of Walden Pond, a lake in Concord Massachusetts.  For the next two years, two months, and two days he would record his experiences as he learned to eliminate the material and spiritual details that trespass upon our happiness.  I can’t help but think what conclusion he would have come to today in a world dependent on modern technology?  Would he have been able to pull it off?  Yes I think he could have.

Walden: Life In the Woods was published in 1854.  It was a reflection upon the two years he spent living the simple life as a way of declaring self-reliance and independence.  Some folks have even referred to it as a manual for self-reliance.  During this time he wrote his first book, “A Week on the Concord and Merrimack Rivers”.

 

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Monsanto Lake

 

I went to the woods because I wanted to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.  I did not wish to live what was not life, living is so dear; nor did I wish to practice resignation, unless it was quite necessary.” Henry David Thoreau

I can’t emphasis enough, how envious of Thoreau I am.  In a situation such as he created, I would think that one would learn to love themselves.  I am a firm believer that if one wants to succeed in life they must learn to love themselves.  I have spent two weeks by myself in the woods living the “simple life” and learned a lot about myself during that time.  I can only imagine what one would learn in two years.

I suppose though that this “alone time” could be detrimental to some folks suffering from depression.  It is hard for those folks to be alone and some definitely don’t need all that time to think.  If those people could train themselves to live this time alone and at the same time deal with depression I think it would be very beneficial to them.  Maybe, just maybe it would be a good avenue to use to defeat their demons and learn how to keep them away.

Thanks for reading my blog and I hope you enjoyed it and the pics I shot.  The pictures are of Monsanto Lake located in the St. Joe Park located in St. Francois county near Park Hills, MO.  I could just see myself living in a cabin on the shores of the lake for two years.  Don’t forget to spread the love.

 

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Monsanto Lake

“I learned this, at least, by my experiment: that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”  Henry David Thoreau, Walden: Life in the Woods

 

 

 

Television or no Television

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“Headlines, in a way, are what mislead you because bad new is a headline, and gradual improvement is not.” – Bill Gates

In all reality the best thing we could do for ourselves is throw our television sets out the window.  Problem is, how often do we do what is best for us?

It astounds me the way the news media thinks we need all this news.  The local news repeats itself on the half hour for two and a half hours repeating the same news and weather forecasts.  Then comes the world news.  Does good news make the headlines?  Hell no!  Bad news is the king of the news world.   Good news doesn’t help your ratings or your newspaper circulation.

“The brains of humans contain a mechanism that is designed to give priority to bad news.” – Daniel Kahneman

No wonder there are so many people who suffer from depression in our world today.   We are constantly bombarded with bad news.   Then our air waves are filled with all these people who know what is best for us, even though most of them aren’t even qualified, and how to make our lives better.  Really?

Then for entertainment there is what I call “free for all shows” where people come on the show to air their dirty laundry.  Who is cheating on who, who is the father of my baby, that sort of topic.  They take lie detector tests and paternity tests.  The one I like is the lady who has had 14 different men on the show trying to find the father of her child.  Nope!  Last I heard they still haven’t found him.  If you think you are having a bad day turn on one of these shows and all of a sudden you realize that your day could be a lot worse.

Then as if they weren’t making enough money on advertisement they came up with “infomercials” and they have become quite popular.  I can’t tell you anything about them because I haven’t watched one.

Oh my gosh!  Maybe I was wrong.  Maybe television isn’t so bad after all.  I mean, you get bombarded by bad news all morning and they air a program where some one who can’t control their life, tells you how to fix yours.  Then to make sure they have helped you they air a show who has guests with problems that just turned your mountain of troubles into a grain of sand.  Last but not least they sell air time to someone so they can explain in a half hour why you need something you really don’t need.  Silly me, they were looking out for me after all.

I guess by now you have figured out that I am not a big fan of television.  I am old enough to remember when two people had to keep one foot on the floor when shooting a scene involving a bed.  Now days they don’t leave much for the imagination.  Even the children shows have become down right insulting in the name of education and political correctness, that’s my opinion anyway.  Hey, what do you expect from a man who cut his eye teeth on, The Roadrunner (beep, beep), The Lone Ranger, and Looney Tunes?  The sad thing is we know all this yet we keep turning the ole “boob tube” on letting it poison the minds of our children and ourselves.  I will admit it, I am guilty of it too.  What secret powers does this box of circuits, electrodes and other technologies have over us?  I really have no answer.  Next time I get the urge to turn on the “idiot box” I think I will grab a book instead.

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Time To Rant

My mind is whirling with all the BS going on in the U.S. today.  I see friends arguing and calling each other names over politics.  Friendships destroyed and families torn apart.  For what?   When did we let politics become more important than friendships and family?   I see people who have no respect for anything and they are quick to criticize.  I see a Main Stream News Media creating a massive divide in this country that is surely going to end in disaster.  Hate seems to be more popular than love.  It seems to me that America is circling the drain and I say to myself, is it too late to put the plug back in the drain.  I hope so.

The top 5 pastors in America have a net worth of 960 million dollars.  Really?  I am a christian but this isn’t religion, this is big business.  I am sorry but that is my opinion and I am sure someone will ream me for it.  I know some pastors that have a great ministry and they do a fine job of preaching the “Word” and helping needy communities on a lot less.

Parents with children.  I am sorry when you go out to a restaurant show the other patrons a little respect.  When you let your children chase each other around the tables it isn’t funny, it is annoying.  To you parents who take the time to teach your child to behave, thank you.  Teach your children the word “no” so that when you tell them they can’t have a candy bar they will refrain from throwing themselves on the floor, screaming and kicking.

Hollywood, get over yourself!   I don’t give a rat’s arse about what your political views are just like you don’t care about mine.  I even respect you less when you use your “stardom” to influence John Q Public.  All the actresses that came out condemning the antics of the POTUS where are you on the subject of Harvey Weinstein?  Maybe I just missed your comments and if I did please forgive me but you seem to be pretty mute about his behavior.  Football players, kneeling to get attention for police brutality.  Where were you when your own was expressing his christian beliefs and got blackballed from football.  He was kneeling.  How about the football player who killed a mother/wife because he ran a red light because he was intoxicated.  He got an eight game suspension.  Really?  I don’t condone police brutality but you have seemed to help alienate a lot of people from your cause.

In the past there has been some bias in the news world but come on.  Can you be any more bias?  Now tune in for the 6 o’clock opinions.  Nope no news, just a bigger spoon to help stir the pot and create more hate and discontent.  I find it  kind of odd that you dropped the Vegas story so quickly.   Did your story fall apart?  Do John Q Public a favor and report the facts and be unbiased in your reporting.  If you are going to be bias then at least do a better job of hiding it.

Sorry for all the ranting but I could go on all night.  Folks whether you believe it or not the country is falling down around us.  Our politicians are failing us.  MSNM is failing us.  Parents are failing their children.  Most of all, we are failing each other.

We need to think about what the consequences our actions will cause.  Example, protesters.  Protesting is a powerful tool when used correctly.  I am sorry but when you invade shopping malls screaming your demands or blocking a freeway you aren’t making friends.  You are causing more hate to be cast your way.  Those people can’t do anything for you.  If you are protesting the government and receiving government benefits, send your checks back or don’t pay your taxes.  This will get the attention of the people who can help you.  Protest in front of city hall every day.  We protest bullying and your protests that you are using is just another form of bullying.

Well I am going to shut up.  In a world full of opinions someone is probably going to get their feelings hurt.  I hope I didn’t make anyone think less of me.  Bottom line is that we need to come together and heal the divide in this nation, not create a bigger abyss.   We are not only destroying our planet but also respect, trust, and integrity.  I am not a Democrat or Republican.  I am an American(gun toting, Bible thumping, redneck I think I was referred to) that wants everyone to come together and heal this great divide within our borders.  United we stand, divided we fall.

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A Changing Society

“Society never advances.  It recedes as fast on one side as it gains on the other.  Its progress is only apparent, like the workers of a tread-mill.  It undergoes continual changes; it is barbarous, it is civilized, it is christianized, it is rich. it is scientific; but this in not amelioration.   For everything that is given, something is taken.   Society acquires new arts and loses new instincts.”  Self Reliance  Essays and Poems by Ralph Waldo Emerson

When I first read this I thought what do you mean society never advances?  Has Mr. Emerson lost his mind?  I spent the next couple of weeks hashing his writing over and over in my mind.  Then just like the cartoon, a light bulb went off over my head.  I have to agree with Mr. Emerson that “Society never advances”.  Oh my gosh I could hear all the eye rolls out there.  You think I have lost it now.

Let’s think about it.  We have had several technological advances over the years however, has our society advanced?  Our clothes, hair styles, automobiles, etc. have changed, but has society advanced?  I think not.  I know we could argue that point all day.  I could agree that in some areas it has advanced but it has digressed in a lot of areas too.  In today’s society it seems that human life was valued more 100 years ago than it is today.  Children were certainly better behaved then and knew respect.  Jobs were certainly harder and a handshake was better than a contract today.  Life was harder but at the same time it was simpler.

Christianity was even different.  Today a lot of religious faiths are more liberal than they were 100 years ago.  Religion wasn’t a big business then either.  My great grandfather was a minister and he had to have a job to support his family which was pretty much the norm then.  The Bible didn’t change, society did.  Society was open to a new set of beliefs and new interpretations of the Word of God.   Incomes became larger so they were able to give more money to the churches.  In essence the Word of God was interpreted differently to meet new life style changes that were happening in a changing society. Now please don’t get a bur under your saddle, I am not arguing religion and I am not saying that 100 years ago they were right and today they are wrong.  I am not taking sides.  The point of this blog is to bring awareness to Mr. Emerson’s works hoping that someone might pick up one of his books and read it.  If I offended anyone I apologize.

There have been many protests and riots throughout the years and it amazes me how society has changed so much in its view of such events.

On May 4, 1970 unarmed college students Kent State University were protesting the Vietnam War when 29 Ohio National Guardsmen fired 67 rounds at the protesters.  Four students were killed and nine wounded.  In the days that followed 4 million students, universities, high schools and colleges, went on strike in protest of the shootings.

On August 10, 2014, the day after Michael Brown was shot by a white police officer, riots and protests started and lasted for two weeks and two days.  The Missouri National Guard was called in but stationed some distance from the riots and were not used to stop the looting and destruction.  Eric Holder even got the DOJ involved and they confirmed that Officer Wilson shot Brown in self defense.  Then in June of 2017 Michael Brown’s family was awarded $1.5 million in a wrongful death law suit.

I could go on and on but I think these are examples of a society that are constantly changing.  It is also happening in the field of education, music, medicine, etc..  I want to thank you for taking the time to read my blog.  I hope you enjoyed reading and if you haven’t read Emerson yet, I hope you now have the desire to pick up one of his books.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Loyalty Has Left the Building

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“Many of the qualities that come so effortlessly to dogs, loyalty, devotion, selflessness, unflagging optimism, unqualified love – can be elusive to humans.” – John Grogan.  My dog Kate has all of the above qualities. I am one of those people that when you come to my house and you tell me you don’t like my dog, I immediately show you to the  door.  We could learn a lot from dogs.

When I was a child a handshake was better than a signed contract because both parties were loyal to the agreement.  Today a so called friend will go behind your back and steal the promotion you were trying to get or if you get it, they will do everything they can to make you look bad.

“Honesty and loyalty are key.  If two people can be honest with each other about everything, that’s probably the biggest key to success.” – Taylor Lautner

So many friendships and relationships now days are void of loyalty.  I see it all the time.  Do we blame it on social media?  Do we blame it on the way we bring our children up?  What do we blame it on?   Ourselves?

Loyalty binds a friendship, and is responsible for us to endure hardship with that person.  Loyal friends see us as someone special to them so therefore they won’t abandon us.  Loyalty is a choice.  A true friend will go with us into the unknown.

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Both of my dogs are loyal and perfect examples of unconditional love.   Not everyone likes dogs so they won’t understand what I am talking about.  Those of you that own dogs know exactly what I am talking about and know how loyal they are.

So let me ask you.  Are you a loyal friend?  Do you know what loyalty is?

Thank you for reading.  Remember to be kind to each other, don’t squat with your spurs on and spread the love.

 

Love

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Bourbeuse River near Union, MO

“When you look into your mother’s eyes. you know that is the purest love you can find on this earth.” -Mitch Albom, For One More Day

Today I came across  a post that said,”If you could get rid of one thing in the world what would it be?”.  There were answers like hate, greed, corruption, etc..  I sat and did some thinking about this and I came to the conclusion that it was the wrong question.  The appropriate question would be, “What would you do to change the world?”.  I would teach the world to love unconditionally.  Why you say?  If we were able to love unconditionally there would be no hate, corruption, greed etc..  Those things could not survive in a world that truly loved unconditionally.  If a person’s heart was that full of love hate couldn’t survive.

Unconditional love in its simplest form means appreciating someone else for who they truly are.  It means loving  them when they are unlovable, and in spite of their imperfections and mistakes.  At a deeper level, it means never, ever questioning whether you’ll feel any other way toward a person.  You’ll never judge them and you will accept them for who they are.  It means loving someone regardless of their race, religion, nationality and their handicaps.

“To love everyone unconditionally does not mean to give everyone your unconditional time.  Sometimes, to love completely,  we must never see someone again.  This too is love.  This is giving someone the freedom to exist and be happy, even if it must be without you.” – Veronika Tugaleva

I am a firm believer to take someone’s life, one’s heart must be full of hate.  A lot of times it is blamed on child abuse during one’s childhood.  That abuse fueled hate and filled that person’s heart to the point they had no regard for another person’s life and they were willing to take that person’s life without hesitation.  If that individual would have been loved like a child should be, in all probability they would have never taken another person’s life.

If unconditional love ruled the world there wouldn’t be people living on the streets, crime wouldn’t exist, there wouldn’t be any corruption in our police departments or government.  Unconditional love would trump the cause of all these negative things. Our children would know what respect is.  It would end hunger.  Wars would be non-existent.

I am a realist however and know this Utopia, so to speak, is more my imagination than a reality.  A great idea and pleasant thought.  Wouldn’t it be great to wake up some morning to a world like this though?

“We are the world, we are the children.   We are the ones who make a brighter day so lets start giving.  There’s a choice we’re making, we’re saving our own lives, its true we’ll make a better day just you and me.”We Are The World USA For Africa

I thank you for taking the time to read my blog.  I guess it would fit into a fantasy category.  In my heart I think it is a beautiful thought.  Be kind to one another, share the love and don’t squat with your spurs on.