“When relationships failed to last, it was not because love was no longer present, but because people stopped believing in themselves and in their partners.” – Oswald

Sleep escapes me once again no matter how hard I try to shut down the swirling mind and let sleep overtake me.  I wonder what the stress tests will show and if I will need surgery or receive a clean bill of health and a effective way to cope with stress.  When relationships fail everyone wants to blame each other when in fact most of the time both parties attributed to the failure of the vows that were spoken.  It is not always the case but if one really reflects on the whole picture there is plenty of blame to go around for both parties most of the time.  Did one try too hard?  Did one not try hard enough?  Did one expect too much?  Did we not try hard enough?  Who knows for certain however one can’t  keep beating themselves up.  They just have to find a way to deal with the pain of a broken heart and move on with their lives.

The lies start so parties involved can make themselves feel better.  They run from the truth and bury their head in the sand instead of fighting to keep it alive.  Personally I think it is a time when one should reflect back and see what they could have done differently and learn from their mistakes so that if one would happen to cross that bridge again they can build a stronger relationship.  Putting the blame in the wrong place doesn’t resolve anything.  It only adds to the heartache and resolves nothing.

Some people think saying “I Love you” is enough when in fact it takes a whole lot more than that.  You have to be there for them through thick and thin and show them the love that is needed to etch that feeling into one another’s heart.  That love that will bind that relationship for eternity.  When you gaze at each other from across the room other people present should be able to see that eternal light of love that burns for one another.  I envy those people.

Never forget to show the one you love how much you love them and how much they mean to you.  Always strive to make it stronger every minute of the day.  Always be by their side not just during the times of elation but also through the times of tribulation.  Grow that bond daily and tell them how proud you are to have them for a spouse and tell them how much you look forward to growing old with them. True love is a sacred thing, don’t let it slip away.  Hold on to it and cherish it because when it is gone it is the most empty feeling one will ever experience.

God Bless everyone and I pray you never have to experience the devastation of losing the eternal light of love in your life.  Thanks for reading.