Life Suggestions


“Life is but a dream for the dead.” – Gerard Way

Have you ever thought, who am I?  What am I doing here?  Is there a purpose for me to be here?  If you are like me you have thought of these and several more.

I think most of us have seen the movie “Its A Wonderful Life“.  George Bailey is shown the lives he had touched and what would have happened if he had not been born.  “A Christmas Carol” depicted a miser with no compassion, who is visited by three spirits and shown the error of his ways.

Now back to real life.  You pretty much don’t have any control of your birth, so the beginning of your life is pretty much controlled by where the birth canal you come out of resides and the owners outlook on life.  Until you leave home your parents are pretty much in control of your life.  Your parents are a crucial part of your road to adulthood.

“The anguish of death hangs over and leads the human spirit to wonder about the mysteries of existence, man’s destiny, life, the world.” E. Morin

So you finally make it to adulthood.  Your prize: work your arse off to make ends meet.  Now you are going to spend the next 40 to 50 years of your life going to work and dreaming about retirement.  Life is grand.  Really it is.

There you stand at the beginning of the road of life with some big decisions.  May I make some suggestions?  First off I am not a psychologist, or the owner of any big degree title for that matter, but I have graduated from the school of hard knocks.

  1. Are you happy with your life?
  2. Are you harboring any grudges or bad feelings toward anyone.
  3. Do you love yourself?
  4. Do you keep a journal?
  5. Do you take me time?

If you aren’t happy with your life take a step back and figure out why.  Once you have figured that out then devise a plan to fix it.

If you are holding a grudge or any ill feelings toward anyone, STOP!  Drop it!  Forget about it.  FORGIVE them.  As long as you are holding a grudge, that negative energy is holding you back keeping you from being what you are capable of being.

You can be the type of person that loves everyone but don’t love yourself.  Why don’t you love yourself?  Do you not think you are worthy of your own love?  You have to figure this one out.  I am a firm believer that life holds those back that don’t love themselves.  This is a very toxic negative energy.

If you don’t keep a journal may I suggest you keep one.  You don’t have to write a book.  Just keep track of your thoughts for a day and 6 months later go back and read it.  You may learn a lot more about yourself.

If you don’t take time for yourself then please start doing so in the very near future say, like yesterday.  There is so many ways you can enjoy “me time”.  Yoga, meditation, reading, fishing, drawing/painting etc.  Just find something that you enjoy, love doing, something that oozes of positive energy.  Take this time to clear you mind, body and soul of the negative energy that has hitched a ride with you, trying to bring you down.

Don’t get caught up in it.  Focus on the positive energy.  The only one who will hold you back in life is you!  Have fun and enjoy life.

I hope you enjoyed my blog.  Thanks for taking the time to read it.  I appreciate it very much.  Make the world a better place and spread the love.

“Death is not the greatest loss in life.  The greatest loss is what dies  inside us while we live.” – Norman Cousins





9 thoughts on “Life Suggestions

  1. Great piece! “It’s A Wonderful Life” has been a favorite of mine since my teens (a long time). I love the lesson that our value comes from the lives we touch. The lives we live are often off shoots from our parents’ dreams and aspirations for us. Sometimes we struggle in the dark to figure out our own path. I agree with your post. We owe it to our selves to discover what we love, what ignites our passions, makes us look forward to the work day (love what you do and you’ll never work a day in your life). I can say, 3 hour commutes, icy roads, and technical challenges aside, I can vouch for doing what you love. George Bernard Shaw wrote, “There are those who look at the way things are, and ask why? I dream of things that never were, and ask why not” (requoted by JFK) For whatever reason, that stuck with me; providing self motivation, giving myself permission, so to speak, to think and do “outside the box”. It became my internal voice when opportunities arose and fear wanted to keep me stagnant; the “why not” also meant measuring pros/cons of choices. Not all of my childhood dreams have come true; but I have also been blessed to exceed so many more than I ever thought possible. Balance. Your suggestion to meditate, etc is great. I found that when I can’t see through something, a drive into dense woodlands, immersing myself in nature, brushing or riding a horse, just sitting under a tree and meditating; these things are how/where I recharge. Keeping Narcissists at bay, keeping toxic people out of our lives, surrounding ourselves with supportive loving people, being our own (if only) cheerleaders…these things help us be all we were intended to be. Our journeys are long, although life seems short, long enough to make as many stops and starts, redo’s, start overs, and changes of direction, that we need to live a purposed, fulfilled life. The best news: right now is perfect timing for making any or the next change that improves our lives, time to take a first/new step. Being our own inspiration (taking pride in not quitting or finding new ways to get to a goal), finding support, being willing to fail and learn, is so worth the efforts, and beats never trying. Positivity is alive and well. When positive thinking leads to positive actions, it’s a win. Sounds good to me. 😀 Thanks for your inspiring posts!

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